Hi Angel, just wanted to say I loved reading this. "Am I choosing this because it supports the life I want, or because it asks the least of me?" - I just wrote this down so I can remember it, such a powerful question to keep in mind when making decisions ❤️ thank you for sharing x
this was really nice and therapeutic to read in a way. I tend to be a very all-or-nothing kind of person, so I operate on extremes. at first, I thought that the safety of comfort was inherently bad, but after reading your reflection, I realized that I was being too dogmatic and that, as you said, a balance of both change and comfort is needed. so now I have a new goal to focus on :-)
The part about helen of nowhere reminded me of another misogynistic male character in a book I read who completely cuts himself off from dissenting opinions and refused to change with the times—robert moses from the power broker. his inability to adapt to new ideas and principles in urban planning ultimately led to his downfall (and forever messed up public transportation in new york city). it's funny how fiction can reflect history in some ways like that, and that's part of why I love reading—that it forces me to confront my character flaws and make sure I'm not acting like a misogynistic asshole on a power trip. here's to being open to change and novelty in life!
Oh my gosh I'm totally the same way. That "all or nothing" mindset is actually something I've talked extensively about with my therapist over the years. Honestly learning to exist in the middle has actually taught me a lot of resilience and not to mention makes life feel simpler to take in.
I'll definitely add Power Broker to my tbr! Thanks for the recommendation
Hi Angel, just wanted to say I loved reading this. "Am I choosing this because it supports the life I want, or because it asks the least of me?" - I just wrote this down so I can remember it, such a powerful question to keep in mind when making decisions ❤️ thank you for sharing x
this was really nice and therapeutic to read in a way. I tend to be a very all-or-nothing kind of person, so I operate on extremes. at first, I thought that the safety of comfort was inherently bad, but after reading your reflection, I realized that I was being too dogmatic and that, as you said, a balance of both change and comfort is needed. so now I have a new goal to focus on :-)
The part about helen of nowhere reminded me of another misogynistic male character in a book I read who completely cuts himself off from dissenting opinions and refused to change with the times—robert moses from the power broker. his inability to adapt to new ideas and principles in urban planning ultimately led to his downfall (and forever messed up public transportation in new york city). it's funny how fiction can reflect history in some ways like that, and that's part of why I love reading—that it forces me to confront my character flaws and make sure I'm not acting like a misogynistic asshole on a power trip. here's to being open to change and novelty in life!
Oh my gosh I'm totally the same way. That "all or nothing" mindset is actually something I've talked extensively about with my therapist over the years. Honestly learning to exist in the middle has actually taught me a lot of resilience and not to mention makes life feel simpler to take in.
I'll definitely add Power Broker to my tbr! Thanks for the recommendation